Today’s Reading: Proverbs 20 – 22
Do you ever start walking down a path, begin a task or write a post that you know is going to get you in trouble? But it is so tempting, so interesting, so thought provoking you can’t stop. You know you are going to get hurt – but you keep forging ahead. My post today has the potential to be one of those time.
There are some proverbs that every husband and wife know. They have been there written for us for nearly 3000 years. We can relate to them, they still hold true today. But we hardly ever talk about them. They might be the forbidden proverbs. Sure men can talk about them with men – usually laugh nervously about them. I have to assume women talk about them in a Bible study or in the secret moments of a women’s ministry retreat. But we don’t talk about them together – it is taboo. Two of these dangerous verses are in today’s reading. You know what verses I am referring to don’t you?
The Quarrelsome Wife
Ok, so it is 5 proverbs to 1 proverb that it is the quarrelsome wife that is the problem. Why is that so? Here are some thoughts…
1. Cultural – Solomon came from a time and age when there was no such thing as women’s liberation and equality for women. Culturally he was expected to blame women for the quarrels in the home. Men were always right.
This is an easy and dangerous reasoning. If we believe that all scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for us then we should be careful how much we throw out for “cultural” reasons. Most often we throw things out for “cultural” reasons when we are throwing them out because we are uncomfortable with what they say. We know and believe that Solomon was a man gifted by God with wisdom. We are currently reading his wisdom. How can we throw some of it out?
2. 700 Wives – Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines, and they led him astray (1 Kings 11:3) In a couple of days we will read more about the problems he had with women. Solomon is a bitter, frustrated husband of 700 wives and we should not take his words on this subject too seriously or to heart.
I kind of look at it differently, Solomon had much more experience with women and wives that I do or ever will. He can speak from experience. Especially when we read later about how the wives led him astray. Solomon is speaking from experience.
3. It is true – When you get right down to it – it is true. No man wants to live in a house with a quarrelsome ill-tempered wife. It can be tiring and depressing to be in such a situation. It can challenge our desire to walk closer to Jesus.
The question for us is not is there truth in these proverbs but what do to about them. How do we respond to such verses?
Special Note: I started writing this post 12 hours ago. I am at a lost as to where to go from here. I say I want a dialog or conversation – so lets dialog – lets converse.
What do we do with these verses?